Què és l'amor? Com es pot arribar a estimar? Estimem?
Sembla evident que tothom estima i, com que és tan evident, és un molt bon exercici parar i mirar què entenem per amor. I per entendre l'amor la millor forma és mirar els actes que acompanyen a l'amor i quins d'ells no són d'amor.
Els gelos són amor? No, són possessió.
Abraçar el nen abans de que marxar de l'escola fins que el nen es posa a plorar és amor? No, torna a ser possessió.
Controlar què fa i què deixa de fer la parella és amor? No, és possessió.
Dir què pot fer i què no pot fer la parella? També, possessió.
Voler canviar a l'altre? No, és faltar al respecte a l'altre procurant que sigui com nosaltres projectem que serem més feliços.
Per tant si treiem tots aquests actes no amorosos, què queda?
Queda la llibertat i el respecte, poc més. Així que estimem algú quan respectem l'altra persona i deixem que sigui lliure.
Fa por? Clar, perquè ens fa por perdre a l'altre perquè tenim entès que tenir-lo lligat és la millor forma de mantenir-lo. Ens fa por que si l'altre es pren totes les llibertats acabi deixant-nos, que descobreixi una persona millor. Ens fa por que l'altre ens faci mal. Ens fa por viure sols. Ens fa por perdre.
I revisitem la pregunta, estimem?
Cadascú que respongui per si mateix (i si algú vol compartir una resposta doncs millor :-)
Una abraçada
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Respect
Lesson: True Warriors have no reason to be cruel. They do not need to
prove their strength. Warriors are courteous even to their enemies.
Warriors are not only respected for their strength in battle but also by
their dealings with others.
Meditation: The true strength of a Warrior becomes apparent during difficult times.
Musings: You do not have to be a bully to get what you want. Rudeness and impolite behaviour are often signs of inner weakness or insecurity. The truly powerful have no need to raise their voices. Those secure in their strength do not belittle others in order to prove themselves. Be cordial and civil to both friend and foe, colleague and stranger, to those above you and those below. Be courteous in word and deed to the elderly, whether they are of a high station in society or not. Do not abuse the weak and the defenceless but rather, where possible, take up the cause of the downtrodden and fight on behalf of those unable to fight for themselves. Do not show disdain to the widow, the orphan and the damsel in distress. Do not sneer at people when they are down but rather, if you can, help them up so they can, like you, stand with dignified pride and rise above their present state.
Above all, if Fate has blessed you and put you in a position of great authority, do not mock and belittle the impoverished, uneducated and less fortunate who come before you. Guard your tongue lest your hard unfeeling words, falling from a great height, crush the spirit of the less fortunate.
Tret de: http://koshersamurai.wordpress.com/2011/07/02/samurai-values-rei-respect/
Meditation: The true strength of a Warrior becomes apparent during difficult times.
Musings: You do not have to be a bully to get what you want. Rudeness and impolite behaviour are often signs of inner weakness or insecurity. The truly powerful have no need to raise their voices. Those secure in their strength do not belittle others in order to prove themselves. Be cordial and civil to both friend and foe, colleague and stranger, to those above you and those below. Be courteous in word and deed to the elderly, whether they are of a high station in society or not. Do not abuse the weak and the defenceless but rather, where possible, take up the cause of the downtrodden and fight on behalf of those unable to fight for themselves. Do not show disdain to the widow, the orphan and the damsel in distress. Do not sneer at people when they are down but rather, if you can, help them up so they can, like you, stand with dignified pride and rise above their present state.
Above all, if Fate has blessed you and put you in a position of great authority, do not mock and belittle the impoverished, uneducated and less fortunate who come before you. Guard your tongue lest your hard unfeeling words, falling from a great height, crush the spirit of the less fortunate.
Tret de: http://koshersamurai.wordpress.com/2011/07/02/samurai-values-rei-respect/
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